Choose What’s Best for You

Words are powerful. They can build you up, but they can also tear you down. Being in a relationship with someone who constantly body shames you or talks down on your appearance is not a small issue—it is a form of emotional abuse.

This kind of abuse goes straight to the mind. It shakes your self-esteem, tampers with your peace, and eats into your entire existence. You begin to see impossibilities even where opportunities exist. You may give up on yourself even though no one else has given up on you.

That is why you must learn to choose yourself first—to walk away from every association, relationship, or environment that threatens your self-worth. If it does not make you better, it has no place in your life.

The Danger of Verbal and Emotional Abuse

If a man prefers skinny women, why should he approach a plus-size woman only to shame her later? Why lure someone with false affection only to make her feel inadequate?

Demeaning words such as:

• “You’re too fat.”

• “You’re too short.”

• “You’re too tall.”

• “You don’t look good enough.”

• “Why can’t you be like this other person?”

…are not just careless remarks. They are daggers aimed at the soul. Choosing to marry someone who constantly tears you down verbally is choosing a life of emotional wreckage.

Dear Women: Protect Your Mental Health

Your mental health is too precious to gamble with. Do not stay with a man who makes you feel inadequate, small, or unworthy. A man who only sees your flaws but never your value is not your partner—he is your oppressor.

If you accept these toxic words repeatedly, you may begin to believe them. You may start to walk sluggishly because you were called “fat,” or hide yourself because you were called “ugly.” But let this truth sink into your spirit: you are special. You are a full package. You are not a mistake.

The Right One Will Build You, Not Break You

True love does not bully. It does not demand that you shrink yourself to fit someone else’s fantasy. The right man will appreciate you for who you are, encourage your growth, and walk with you toward becoming the best version of yourself.

Do not be deceived: an abuser rarely changes until the damage is done—and the damage is usually on the abused, not the abuser. That is why a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. A broken relationship may hurt for a season, but a broken marriage can wound you for a lifetime.

A Word to Men

Dear men, please go for your kind. If you want a slim woman, do not approach a chubby one only to mock her later. If you want a tall woman, do not ridicule a petite one. Respect people as they are. Stop demanding that women break themselves to fit your shallow preferences.

Final Reflection

Ladies, whether you are size 8, 10, 12, 14, 16, or beyond—love your body. You are not less valuable because of your shape or size. Do not let any man make you feel as though he is “doing you a favor” by choosing to be with you.

Stop accepting words that wound your soul. Stop tolerating actions that crush your spirit. Choose what is best for you.

You were not created to be diminished—you were created to shine. Walk confidently, live freely, and remember: the right one will celebrate you, not condemn you.

Inspired by the GOA Community
Presented by: Anutanwa Kosisochukwu