A Wake-Up Call for Every Single Woman

Marriage is one of the most significant decisions in life. But let’s be honest—just because you’ve turned 30 or even 40 does not automatically mean you are ready to say “I do.”

Marriage is not only about finding the right person; it is also about becoming the right person. Many people rush into marriage believing love alone is enough, only to discover that marriage magnifies flaws rather than hides them.

So before you step into a lifelong covenant, pause and ask yourself: Am I truly ready?

Here are signs that may reveal you are not yet prepared for marriage:

1. No Stable Source of Income

Love is sweet, but hunger is real. If you constantly depend on others for basic needs like food, bills, or data, you are not ready to take responsibility for another person’s life.

2. No Clear Vision for Life

Marriage demands direction, not just affection. If you don’t know where you are going, you cannot lead or walk with anyone else.

3. Living in Idleness

No job. No passion. No goals. Just vibes. That is not preparation—it’s a recipe for frustration.

4. Anger Issues

If you explode over small matters, you will damage your home. Emotional maturity is essential; without it, intimacy cannot thrive.

5. Deep Insecurity or Jealousy

Low self-esteem mixed with uncontrolled jealousy creates a toxic environment. Until you are at peace with yourself, you cannot fully love another.

6. Lack of Self-Control

Marriage demands discipline. If you follow every impulse—words, actions, or relationships—you risk building a home on sand.

7. Rebelling Against Authority

If you cannot submit to mentors, parents, or spiritual leaders, how will you embrace the accountability that marriage requires?

8. Weak Spiritual Foundation

Marriage is more than romance—it is also spiritual warfare. Without prayer, the Word of God, and divine strength, you will miss the power needed to sustain your home.

9. Lack of Basic Life Skills

You don’t need to be a professional chef, but maturity shows in being able to handle chores and manage a household.

10. Laziness and Passivity

If you cannot take initiative in your own life, you will struggle to build a thriving marriage.

11. Premarital $ex

If you cannot delay gratification now, you may struggle with fidelity later. Purity builds trust and self-discipline.

12. Dishonesty

Trust is the foundation of every marriage. Lies will eventually destroy it.

13. Pretending

Marriage exposes the real you. If you are still hiding your flaws, needs, or intentions, you are not ready for such deep vulnerability.

14. Pride and Unteachability

Marriage requires humility, listening, and adjustment. A proud spirit will block connection and intimacy.

15. Dislike for Children

Marriage may lead to parenting. If children annoy you, you may need to examine your capacity to nurture.

16. Careless Spending

Marriage requires stewardship. If you are careless with money, your home will suffer unnecessary stress.

17. Playing Games and Double Dating

If you are still “sampling” people as though commitment is optional, you are not yet emotionally prepared for covenant love.

18. Selfishness

Marriage is about we, not me. A self-centered life cannot sustain a partnership that thrives on sacrifice and compromise.

19. Lack of Knowledge About Marriage

You prepare for school, career, and business—so why not marriage? Ignorance is not a virtue. Seek wisdom, read books, and prepare intentionally.

Conclusion: Be Complete First

Marriage does not fix character flaws—it magnifies them. Do not enter marriage hoping someone else will complete you. Be complete in yourself and in Christ.

Begin addressing these red flags now so that when love comes, you will be ready for it. Remember, marriage is not a rescue mission. It is a covenant between two whole people, not two broken halves.

Work on yourself. Build your vision. Deepen your walk with God. Develop emotional maturity.

And when the right time and the right person come, you will step into marriage not out of desperation, but with wisdom, strength, and joy.

God bless us all.

Inspired by GOA Community
Presented by: Anutanwa Kosisochukwu